Is it really that simple? Be ourselves? First and foremost lets define what is ourselves. Take me for instance. I am indeed the epitome of kentalism (Hey, I am proud of it. At least I have a tittle. Do you?). So, does it mean that I have to be kental for my job interview or when presenting my work or worst still, going on my first date. Will things work out just fine? I don't think so. (although some chicks find kental charming)
We have heard it too often. Don't judge the book by it's cover. But we can't deny that the most colourful book with pictures (esp pictures of women) get the most attention. So what i think is that being yourself is just not enough. Externally (ie what you wear) and internally (ie how you behave) we have to change to adapt to the stituation.
Lets do some case study.
Externally:
If you were a "mat" going to the mosque for Solat Aidiladha for instance, it will be more appropriate for you to wear the traditional baju kurung and songkok even though you miss your tapered jeans already and worry that your spiky hair not be so spiky anymore.
If you were a geek going for prom. Well, u better get those big round glasses off and your flat hair standing if you even want to enter the ball room.
Internally:
If you were the joker of the class and, I dont know why, happened to like the quietest girl in school, please do not laugh loudly during your first date. You will just scare her off.
If you were the "speaking London" kinda person, you will just get kicked out if you happened to do community service at the Boys home. (ok i exaggerate alot but you get the point)
Ok. It is not that I am saying you should not be yourself at all. What I feel is that there are many sides to yourself. Like me, I do have my "cool" moments you know. Once in a while. Choose the side that is best for the stituation and shine it out a little more than the others. Therefore what i think is the better advise is suite yourself best to the stituation.
5 comments:
You have a COOL side!!!!!!!!!!!!
OMGGGGGGGGGGGG.HAHAHAHHAAA.
Kau jgn buat aku ketawe tengah hari sebegini lahhh.
Haha.Im really laughing.See what i mean.Its like i laugh AT you fiz.Like,its not even a JOKE.But im laughing.Haha.
And yes,i personally find kental charming!
it is because i have my funny side too. i need not tell a joke but still i make people laugh. that is call funny. and it comes naturally to me apparently.
Everyone has different facets to their character. Though you do have to adapt to different situations, you can't change what's at the core.
If the funny yet selenge boy with the loud laugh happens to like a very quiet girl, two things might happen:
1. she finds it endearing and things will work themselves out
2. she is scared off and runs away.
At least she realizes that side of him early. Sekali after one year she finally hears him laugh the way he normally does with his friends, and she cannot like it, and she leaves him, won't it be worse?
So yes. While it is true that you have to adapt to situations in terms of your actions and dress, it shouldnt apply to your friends. And more.
Think on it.
when u want to impress someone, u have to bring out the better qualities in u initially. i think naturally, as u are with the person what's at the core will slowly shine through. it is a gradual process, starting with the best qualities and learning to accept the other qualities one by one. u wont even have the chance to be with the person if u give a bad impression in the first place. what do u think???
i think ah.. worse come to worse case... you jus try be like ana! =P
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